Saturday, April 24, 2010

Remember CJ

Many of you know Hallie at Wonderful World of Wieners. She suddenly lost her 20 year old son, CJ, last week. The family has been living minute by minute since then. The funeral is today, so in honor of that I am reposting a post Hallie's friends put on her blog the other day.

C.J., YOU WILL FOREVER BE MISSED...

Written in Loving Memory of Christopher John “C.J.” Twomey on behalf of Hallie, John and Connor Twomey by Dayna and Kimmy.

Words are at times, inadequate, and often hard to come by. This is the hardest thing we have ever had to write. It is with deep sadness that we tell you that on April 15th, Christopher John “C.J.” Twomey, the beloved son of Hallie and John, big brother to Connor, passed away unexpectedly, leaving behind his heartbroken family and friends.

His obituary can be found here:
http://www.asimas.com/ASIMAS/lynchbros/obituaryDescription.jsp?domain_id=244&deceased_id=223317

Those who loved C.J. are left to miss his infectious smile, to wish to hold him again, to have him saunter into a room and make us all laugh. We wish we could talk to him, to watch him love the way that he did, with his whole heart. In short, those who loved C.J. are longing for the future we were all supposed to have with him. Hallie and John are heartbroken, are struggling to understand the events of the last week and are focusing on making sure their son Connor, who has shown grace and maturity well beyond his 16 years, knows and feels the love of his parents at this very difficult time.

Hallie, John and Connor have received an overwhelming amount of support over the last week from friends nearby who have stood with them through horrific circumstances, to the calls of support and the messages sent through text, email, Facebook and many other mediums. They know that so many of you are hurting as well.

Even in the mist of incomprehensible pain, Hallie and John continue to think of others. Despite their own pain, they remembered the pain of Hallie’s dad as he was waiting for a heart, and became a recipient himself. In his final hours, Hallie and John made the heroic decision to donate C.J.’s organs. This week, 56 families felt the joy of hope for their family, even in the darkest moments for C.J.’s family.

Many have asked what they can do for the family and we have three suggestions:

1. Pray for comfort. Hallie, John, Connor and their extended family have pain that is indescribable; please offer up prayers that comfort can come to them.

2. Continue to send messages of support. The messages of support they have received mean more than they can express right now. Messages sent through Facebook, the Blog, or for those who have the ability, text messages of support are appreciated. While they are not able to respond, they are reading them, and it does lift them in support when one more step or one more breath seems like it’s just too much to take.

3. Make a donation. A fund has been set up called the “TWOMEY FAMILY BENEFIT” for the family to use as they see fit – for funeral expenses, for a memorial for C.J. or maybe even to just be able to get away as a family and spend time grieving the loss of their beloved son. Many of us felt the need to do SOMETHING, and being far away, and knowing that we can't take away the emotional burden, this felt like something we could do to help.

If you are inclined to make a donation, you can simply walk it into any TD Bank and ask to make a donation to the “TWOMEY FAMILY BENEFIT” (these exact words must be used). If, however, you do not have a TD Bank near you (as they are only located on the East Coast) you can simply mail a check to:

TD Bank
200 US Route 1
Falmouth, ME 04105

The checks should be made payable to the: “TWOMEY FAMILY BENEFIT” and should also include those exact words in the memo line of the check.

Any questions can be directed to Kimmy at: kimmy@maine.rr.com

We know that this time, for all of us, is shocking and difficult to comprehend a life cut so short. We hope and pray that you can take a moment to hold those you love tight, tell them you love them and cherish every moment.

Love like C.J. did, with his whole heart, and give to others freely.

May we all find comfort.
Dayna & Kimmy

6 comments:

Jillian said...

Makes you think about each day we have together!
That is so great that they donated his organs! Kurt, Halee and I are organ donors and I am so happy to see that CJ will live on in others that may not of had a chance or had a better life!

Stay strong and my thoughts and prayers go out to your friends!

Rebecca Jo said...

I still cant believe he passed away... so heart breaking!

Unknown Mami said...

It really is heart breaking.

AirmanMom said...

my heart hurts for all who know and love CJ.
~AM

Heather said...

I will pray for CJ's family. That is so very sad :(

Kaylen said...

How horrifyingly tragic!!!!!